Saturday, June 23, 2012

Father's Day

I was blessed on Father's Day to be able to spend parts of it with all of my dads!  The morning of Father's Day was the last of our family reunion (more on that later), so I was able to have breakfast and give big hugs to both my dad and my step-dad.  After the long drive home with my family we stopped at my in-laws to see my father-in-law.  It was wonderful to see all my dads. 

The kids made their dad an apron for bbq'ing.  On the bottom it had R2-D2's dome, it said "R2-Dad2 A skill for every occassion." across the top with a few other sentiments from the kids on it - Dad you rock, best dad ever.  It almost brought their dad to tears he was so touched by the effort they put into making it just perfect for him. 

I am greatful for the four amazing father's in my life.  They have blessed my life in so many ways.  I am greatful for the examples of being a good father and husband that my dad and step-dad showed me as I grew up.  It helped shape my opinion of what I wanted in a husband.  I am greatful to my father-in-law for teaching my husband to be a great man like him. 

Happy Father's Day!  I love you all. 

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Growing Up and Letting Go.....At Least a Little

A few days ago Archer and four of his friends went to a local "indoor entertainment facility".  They each got an all day pass a off they went.  Without parents.  Eek!  Archer is old enough for this, he is more than mature enough for it, he was not alone.  I however was a nervous wreck.  He is still my baby right?  He will always be my baby, but he is growing up.  It is hard as a parent to give our kids more freedom.  I knew he would be okay.  I knew he would do what he was supposed to do.  knew he would make good choices.  I knew that he is one of the most responsible kids his age that I know.  I knew all of that, yet I still worried.  I suppose the worry never really goes away.  It should not go away as we love them and want what is best for them.  It is best for them to grow, to learn, to get more freedom, and eventually leave the nest.  I am thankful that he will not be leaving the nest for many more years.  Until that time I will have to learn to slowly let go of him being my baby and embrace the young man he has become.  I am glad that I have a little more time before the rest of the kids hit that particular milestone! For that day Archer had a fantastic time hanging out with his friends, playing laser tag, riding go kart, playing the arcade, just being a pre-teen boy.  There is time enough for him to grow up.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I'm Geeky and I Show It

I was walking to the dentist's office today and realized that my geek was REALLY showing.  Star Wars tee?  Check.  Transformers key chain, Bumblebee, hanging out of my pocket?  Check.  Tardis phone cover?  Check.  It really just made me laugh.  Nothing wrong with letting your geek show!


Wondering where you can get a cool tee like mine?  Check out Qwertee, we love them!  Except they keep taking my money by offering awesome shirts.....

Family Reunion

Our family reunion is fast approaching and I just got news today that ALL of my siblings will be there!  I am so excited about that.  All your siblings you say?  Can't be that big of a feat right?  How many siblings can one person have?  The answer is yes all of my siblings, a very big feat and a person can have a LOT of siblings!  I have 4 brothers, 2 sisters, 1 half-sister, 1 half-brother, 3 step-brothers (one deceased), and 1 step-sister.  For those adverse to doing the math, as lets admit it not everyone wants to do math just for kicks, that is 12 (TWELVE) siblings.  Throw in 5 sister-in-laws, 3 brother-in-laws, 12 nieces, 12 nephews, plus 2 sets of parents and you realize that everyone coming was a feat to be accomplished.  I am very excited and very content in knowing that we will all be together soon for a few days.  I feel blessed to have such a big family and I truly love them all.  Not only do I love them, but I like them too! 

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Milestones and Tears

This past week was the last week of the 2011-2012 school year.  It was filled with milestones and quite a few tears.  Some tears were of the good variety, some of the not so good variety, but I'm only going to talk about the good variety.

Archer officially finished up his years as an elementary school student this past week.  He is growing up WAY too fast!  He's over 5'2" tall, only 1/2 a shoe size smaller than me (and I have BIG feet), and is just becoming an amazing young man.  However, he should still be my little baby boy.  I keep telling my kids they do not have permission to grow, but they just do not seem to listen.  Off my tangent now....Archer's last week of school was all about fun and celebrating the milestone.  There was a social with pizza and dancing, a breakfast, a morning of fun at the Brunswick Zone, a clap out (can we say tears?), and then finally a continuation ceremony.  I have never attended a clap out for the 6th graders before and it is a tear jerker for parents, teachers, and students alike.  The 6th graders are taken through the school (in our case both school buildings) where the halls are lined with the younger students, teachers, staff, and parents.  Everyone there cheers and claps for the 6th graders.  The 6th graders are given a couple flowers they can give to their favorite teachers.  Archer had me get flowers, white roses, which he handed out to each of the teachers he had had.  As we walked through the halls saying goodbye he looked at me and said "Mom this is my LAST time being here as a student".  He held back the tears as the nostalgia hit him hard.  At the continuation his teacher talked about each student individually and what they had, and did, mean to him.  Then he was done.  No longer in elementary school, but a middle school student.  I know that he will do well in middle school, that he can handle anything that is coming.  I am just not sure that I am ready for it yet.  A couple more years of him being little would be fabulous!  He is still my little boy though and he knows it. 


The second milestone we reached this past week was Princess's kindergarten graduation.  It was our fourth and last kindie graduation.  Our school puts on a Chicka Chicka Boom Boom program for the parents.  Each kindergartener is given a letter which they paint on their shirt and make matching hats for.  They learn the story "Chicka Chicka Boom Boom" and sing it with actions.  It is so incredibly adorable!  Then off to the classes we all go.  Princess's teacher does a sweet little program and she cries every year (she has had 3 of my kids in her class), which makes me cry!  My oldest is done with elementary school and my youngest is just starting her journey through it. 

A mother should not be required to sit through a 6th grade continuation AND a kindergarten "graduation" within 12 hours of each other.  It is very tear inducing! 

If that were not enough to make me weepy, I spent the last 45 minutes of the school day in Angel's third grade class.  Both Angel and Archer had Mrs. V for 3rd grade.  She is an AMAZING teacher and we just love her to pieces.  This was her last year teaching at our school as she needs to be closer to her family.  I am very happy for her that she was able to find a new job closer to home, but sad that she will no longer be at our school.  I understand that she needs to do what is best for HER kids and not stick around just in case my kids get her as a teacher.  It would be incredibly selfish of me to think otherwise.  We will still miss having her here at our school, but will continue to stay in touch.

The journey continues for us all through these changes in life.  They are all GOOD changes, even if they leave us with tears in our eyes.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Mom Guilt Revisited

A few days ago one of my good friends was lamenting on Facebook that she deserved the bad mom of the year award.  I happen to know she is an amazing mom!  Yet we ALL have those days where as moms we just feel like we are doing an awful job.  I reread my mom guilt post from a couple months ago and chuckled a little bit.  I really had nothing to feel guilty about as my daughter was fine, but I DID feel guilty.  Extremely guilty and I think that is a GOOD thing!  Yep mom guilt is a good thing in my estimation.  Why?  Because it means you care!  What I posted to my friend is this: "Guilt is definitely part of being a mom! Look at it this way though - if you do not feel guilt over the stupid things (cause really they are stupid) then you are not a good mom. Part of being a good mom is wanting what is best for your kid(s), which is where the guilt comes from. If you didn't feel guilt then you aren't doing it right!"  As mothers we care so much for our children, we only want what is best for them.  When they are hurt, sad, sick, lonely, mad, or really anything other than happy it can trigger that guilt.  We want for our kids to be happy, so when they are not we often start questioning ourselves.  Is what we are doing as a parent the right thing?  Are we just screwing our kids up so badly they'll never recover?  I know that I often have those feelings of guilt.  I tend to beat myself up with it.  Yet when my friend was beating herself up I recognized that it is normal and good.  It often takes looking outside yourself and your own situation to realize something so simple and plain.  So next time I get the mom guilt, as it will happen I am sure sooner rather than later, I will do my best to remember that the guilt comes from caring and loving my kids so much that I only want the best for them and for them to be happy.

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Visiting Teaching and Chocolate Chip Cookies

In my church the women's group (Relief Society) has a support system (Visiting Teaching) for each of the women.  Essentially two women are assigned 2-3 different women to visit on a monthly basis.  That way everyone has someone else that they can count on.  In our ward (congregation) I am the visiting teaching coordinator and as such they have me do a monthly visiting teaching message.  I have found that coming up with these messages is not the easiest thing to do.  So to help out others who may be in a similiar position I have decided to post my messages here. 

Visiting Teaching and Chocolate Chip Cookies

Today we are going to talk about how Visiting Teaching is like chocolate chip cookies.  A chocolate chip cookie consists of a huge mass of dough sprinkled sporadically with absolutely yummy chocolate chips.  The dough represents the foundation of the cookie, the spiritual message and ministering.  The chocolate chips represent the joyous moments that raise Visiting Teaching to more than just messaging and make it about caring.

A lot of time our judgement on the "deliciousness" of the cookie itself is limited by our own perspective.  A lot of chocolate chips may be present, but we can allow the flavor of the dough to overwhelm the chocolate chips!  In other words, we often become so focused on whether we have sat and presented the message that we forget about the caring we have done.  The dough itself is delicious and filling, but the chocolate chips are what bring it all together.

What are the chocolate chip moments?  I asked some of my friends and these are some of their chocolate chip moments:
  • Friendships made.
  • Smiles and Hugs
  • Meals brought in times of need.
  • Someone to listen to you.
  • Having someone there for you through thick and thin, that you know you can call on in a pinch.
  • Dropping off of a favorite drink or treat.
  • Emails just to check in on you and see how you are doing.
  • Coming over just to chat.
  • Going out for a Girl's Night Out, having lunch or dinner together, even getting a pedicure together.
  • Truly being loved.
On the church website it says "a Visiting Teacher ministers by helping sisers know they are loved, help in them grow, and serving them in times of need."  We can't do that without the caring!  When doing your Visiting Teaching, don't forget the chocolate chips!


(If you use something like this for a talk or a V.T. moment in church, I highly suggest taking in a basket of chocolate chip cookies.)