Junior high and Archer have become something of a frustration to me. He is doing fine with his peers, no bullying issues thank goodness. Honestly that is what I was most worried about. He scores well on his tests. His teachers all talk about what a smart, kind, and respectful person he is. He does his homework. Where might the frustration be you might ask? All of that sounds great does it not? He truly is a great young man. However the kid cannot seem to turn his homework in on a consistent basis! From talking to friends I am finding that this is a very common issue. He had a hard time in a couple classes first term. Second term did great, mostly A's with a couple B's. This last term, back to his bad habits from the first term. It seems like a huge waste of time to me to expend the time and effort of doing the work and then not reaping the rewards of it. There is a large learning curve involved. In elementary school teachers will remind you to turn work in, in junior high not so much. In elementary teachers only have 20-30 kids in their classrooms, not over 100 different kids throughout the day. So I understand why it is put on the kids to keep track of these things. It can be hard for a child to learn to do. The solution we came up with is that every Sunday evening, before the school week starts, Archer and I will sit down and review the upcoming week. We will pull up Infinite Campus and make sure he has no missing assignments, we will review the scores he has gotten up to that point, and we will see what is due that week. The hope is that he will get into the habit of doing it himself, but in the meantime part of my job as his mom is to help him learn to do it. At the end of the day if he gets a C in a class that he struggled with and worked his butt off at, then I will be okay with it. If he gets a C in that same class because he did not turn in work he had done, not so okay with that. So the learning curve continues, for both of us. Archer's learning curve is keeping track of assignments. My learning curve is to help my child with this new portion of his life. Just like we had to teach him to balance to ride a bike properly, we need to teach him how to do this to succeed at school. At the end of the day, no matter how frustrating it may be I am so very proud of Archer and all my kids. They are fantastic and I am blessed to be their mom.
Showing posts with label Proud. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Proud. Show all posts
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Learning Curve
Junior high and Archer have become something of a frustration to me. He is doing fine with his peers, no bullying issues thank goodness. Honestly that is what I was most worried about. He scores well on his tests. His teachers all talk about what a smart, kind, and respectful person he is. He does his homework. Where might the frustration be you might ask? All of that sounds great does it not? He truly is a great young man. However the kid cannot seem to turn his homework in on a consistent basis! From talking to friends I am finding that this is a very common issue. He had a hard time in a couple classes first term. Second term did great, mostly A's with a couple B's. This last term, back to his bad habits from the first term. It seems like a huge waste of time to me to expend the time and effort of doing the work and then not reaping the rewards of it. There is a large learning curve involved. In elementary school teachers will remind you to turn work in, in junior high not so much. In elementary teachers only have 20-30 kids in their classrooms, not over 100 different kids throughout the day. So I understand why it is put on the kids to keep track of these things. It can be hard for a child to learn to do. The solution we came up with is that every Sunday evening, before the school week starts, Archer and I will sit down and review the upcoming week. We will pull up Infinite Campus and make sure he has no missing assignments, we will review the scores he has gotten up to that point, and we will see what is due that week. The hope is that he will get into the habit of doing it himself, but in the meantime part of my job as his mom is to help him learn to do it. At the end of the day if he gets a C in a class that he struggled with and worked his butt off at, then I will be okay with it. If he gets a C in that same class because he did not turn in work he had done, not so okay with that. So the learning curve continues, for both of us. Archer's learning curve is keeping track of assignments. My learning curve is to help my child with this new portion of his life. Just like we had to teach him to balance to ride a bike properly, we need to teach him how to do this to succeed at school. At the end of the day, no matter how frustrating it may be I am so very proud of Archer and all my kids. They are fantastic and I am blessed to be their mom.
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Being Proud vs Being Prideful
A friend of mine today on Facebook asked "what is your proudest moment as a parent"? That is a question that I'm not sure if I can answer as there are many moments that have made me proud. The question almost crosses the line of being proud and being prideful. Being proud of your children for something is wonderful and something all parents should feel. Feeling pride in yourself as a parent is completely different though, as that is where you are taking all the credit. What is your proudest moment or what moment do you take the most pride in. Two completely different things, but which could both be taken from the statement.
PROUD: feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something
PRIDEFUL: having or showing arrogant superiority to and disdain of those one views as unworthy
I know my friend did not mean her post to be about being prideful, but about being proud of your children. It did make me think about the distinction though. I will always be proud of my children and their accomplishments. However, I must always be careful to never let that turn into pride.
On the original question of proudest moment, it would vary by child. My children are pretty amazing! It's all them though. They were born amazing. I'm doing my best to be a good mother, a good example, a good guide; in reality I am just hanging on for the ride.
I am proud of my oldest for making and achieving his goal of receiving every belt loop that the cub scouts offer. There are 53 of them! I don't know of any other child that has done this. He is very goal driven and doesn't let anything stop him from finding a way to achieve his dreams.
I am proud of my second child for working hard to overcome her vision disability. She has worked really hard to turn her disability into something that she can control. In the meantime, she has excelled at everything she has done.
I am proud of my third child for being such a creative child. He loves to create. You never know what he is going to come up with from one moment to the next. What he comes up with never ceases to amaze me.
I am proud of my youngest for being a compassionate young girl. She is so loving, kind, and caring. She always wants to make sure everyone around her is happy and is great at being able to make those around her feel loved.
PROUD: feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something
PRIDEFUL: having or showing arrogant superiority to and disdain of those one views as unworthy
I know my friend did not mean her post to be about being prideful, but about being proud of your children. It did make me think about the distinction though. I will always be proud of my children and their accomplishments. However, I must always be careful to never let that turn into pride.
On the original question of proudest moment, it would vary by child. My children are pretty amazing! It's all them though. They were born amazing. I'm doing my best to be a good mother, a good example, a good guide; in reality I am just hanging on for the ride.
I am proud of my oldest for making and achieving his goal of receiving every belt loop that the cub scouts offer. There are 53 of them! I don't know of any other child that has done this. He is very goal driven and doesn't let anything stop him from finding a way to achieve his dreams.
I am proud of my second child for working hard to overcome her vision disability. She has worked really hard to turn her disability into something that she can control. In the meantime, she has excelled at everything she has done.
I am proud of my third child for being such a creative child. He loves to create. You never know what he is going to come up with from one moment to the next. What he comes up with never ceases to amaze me.
I am proud of my youngest for being a compassionate young girl. She is so loving, kind, and caring. She always wants to make sure everyone around her is happy and is great at being able to make those around her feel loved.
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